Who Are We Now?

by Suzie on October 23, 2013

A client confided how deeply sad, confused and lonely she was feeling about her youngest child going off to college. She spoke about how unprepared she was when the day finally came. She knew her emotions were on high alert, but didn’t realize how shaken she would be until she was driving away and realized she was heading home to an empty house for the first time in many years.

As mothers, we exalt in the birth of our children and the many milestones we usher them through. So many of us are unprepared to arrive at the moment of them leaving us and can’t believe all that time has passed. Not even a gold watch or a pat on the back for a job well done to mark this momentous occasion. Now we’re supposed to get on with our lives, just like that. Many of us start asking ourselves what life do we go back to? Who are we now? No road map to guide us through this uncharted territory.

Some of us are thrilled when that door slams for the last time and see it as a whole new beginning. Others of us become lost and depressed because we can’t remember the things about us that made us the individuals we are. There are, of course, many scenarios in between. Whatever it happens to be for each of us, is neither right nor wrong, but honoring the emotions we feel, without judgment or repression, is key to finding our way back to the deep essence of whom we are. It may take some time, even remind us a bit of childbirth, but seeing our new lives before us will certainly be worth the struggle.

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